To work with these underneath parts, we use emotional processing. We accept all these hurt parts of us. Instead of resisting them, we welcome them. We welcome these unhappy parts with open arms of love. We comfort them, we sooth them like we would a crying child. We tell them it’s not their fault, that they are okay just the way they are. We tell them that it’s completely understandable that they are in pain, because their needs were not met. They were rejected, or frightened, or suppressed. Of course, they feel terrible. We don't try to change them. We validate their pain. We tell them we are not going to reject them or suppress them anymore. We are going to accept them and hear what their little voices have to say. We are going to let their little thoughts express inside us however they want. We are going to give these hurt parts all the love, play, acceptance, and relaxation that they never had, inside our own selves.